how do i get my bf to quit smoking?
May 10th, 2011
whenever i ask him to quit he says he will if i help him. and whenever i try to help him he gets mad, or just does it anyways. i loveee him and i would rather him not die of lung cancer. what should i do
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Sit down with him and explain to him that you love him and that your don’t want smoking to hurt him in anyways because it hurts you to see him hurting himself like that, And that smoking causes serious risks to his heath.
tell him you won’t kiss or give oral to an ash tray
just love him through the madness…he says he wants your help then one day, if he stops with your help, he will realize you have saved him from himself….or….. he might start to see you as a mother and not his lady or fox and you know the whole relationship chemistry will change. get a counciller
you can’t do much of anything..the best thing to do is give him books about smoking and the harm they cause..tell him how you feel..
okay, you cant get him to by demanding. next time he says he will if you help him, tell him that you are willing to help him as long as he sticks to his word. i think he might just be saying that because he doesnt want to quit. the best way to help him, if he agrees, for each time he goes to have a cigarette give him a consequence. nothing too serious, of course. if you are intimate with him tell him NO SEX. or make a bet with him on how long he can go without having one. if he loses, he buys you dinner or something. if you reach the goal, by that time he will prove to himself that he doesnt need them. or just explain to them why you dont like them and that you care. i smoke cigarettes, so this is how i would want someone to approach me with the problem. best of luck girl!
I used positive affirmations.
That is where you write a positive statement down on paper thirty times a day until you quit.
Mine was:
I shall quit smoking and drinking,and live a long healthy prosperous life.
I also chewed gum, and when I was sitting , or driving, or waiting anywhere, I would repeat it over and over as many times as I could while I was doing nothing else.
I swear it reprograms your inner PC. this is known by several names such as self hypnosis, brainwashing, auto suggestion. No matter what it is called it works. That is because it is a natural process. You do this all the time anyhow, the process just compresses the time you would take.
It’s called find another boyfriend who doesn’t smoke. If you hate him smoking, why did you start dating him? It’s common knowledge, that if you hate smoking, you don’t date smokers. Now you are in a bind. I’m afraid you are going to lose this one. If you love him, you take him as is. Not all of him except his smoking. Next time, don’t date smokers.
Good on you for being worried about your bf. This is a tough situation because at the end of the day it is his choice to whether or not he quits smoking.
All you can do is keep trying to convince him. Smokers are stubborn people (I know because I used to be one of them). The reason he gets mad is because you are telling him stuff he already knows, he just won’t admit to it yet.
Let him know how much you love him. Let her know the pain you will go through if you were to lose him. Putting your bf through a big guilt trip is a hard thing to do but it may be your only option. Try to talk to him as nicely as possible about it. Getting agro just gives him a reason to get agro back.
Don’t listen to those who say stop trying. If you quit trying then he sure as hell won’t quit smoking.
Good luck to you.