Stop Smoking Help Blog

Milton says:

Dealing with anger has nothing to do with smoking cessation. It is just another excuse to fail. I know smokers who were never angry in their lives and non smokers who are so angry you could light a cigarette by touching it to their eye!

The best way you can help is help your roomie realize that smoking is an addiction and an addiction has to be broken by removing any excuses for returning to it. She can be as angry as she wants. She could even kill you but don’t pick up the first cigarette.

I quit smoking many years ago — once and forever. I put up with a year of desire to return but I did it the way I was taught — one moment at a time. I got through early non-smoking time a second at a time and then a minute and now it is a decade at a time. I’d rather eat a bucket of used tampons than smoke a cigarette. I am healthier, look better, feel free of anything that I have to do rather than want to do. Smoking is an embarrassment, no matter how much “smoke” a nicotine junkie throws off. You know you can’t stop and your body defies you by forcing you to give in to cravings you know are harming your body and everyone else around you wih second hand smoke.

In jest, the only way you can help her do the stopping is buy her “the patch” and paste it across her mouth. Even then, if she wants to smoke, she will smoke through her nose.

Best of luck to her. Do not feel responsible for her sucess because then you will feel responsible for her failure (which I hope does not occur). But know your odds. Only about 5% of smokers quit on their first try and only about
25 % ever quit without first having at least a heart attack or a lung removed.